Qualities of a good Christian Husband and Wife

Qualities of a good Christian Husband and Wife

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We welcome Jesus in our homes today
We welcome, we welcome
We welcome Jesus in our homes today
We welcome Jesus today

What is the Christian Family?

The Christian family is a place where Jesus is made the Lord and master of the home. It is a place where God is worshipped as He really is. It is a place where fathers and mothers are role models to their children. And in summary it is a place where intending couples can look up to and desire to marry and where godless and crisis stricken worldly families can run up to for counsel.

Unfortunately, some professed Christians don't even know what the gospel is--they are not even a Christian family. Some of today's "Christian" families look just like the world in every aspect--except they go to a church building regularly and listen to a preacher just as messed up as they are.

We are alive to honour and glorify God in all that we do. Our families are to glorify God. Father loving mother as Christ loved the church. Mother submitting to father as the church submits to Christ. Children obeying parents. Daddy working, Mama keeping a house. Children trained in the ways of Jesus. This makes for a blessed home that magnifies the doctrine of God our Saviour. The Christian life is a spiritual and a heavenly life.

Christian Marriage and Family is a ministry for Godly based marriage and family. It is my deepest desire to encourage you in your walk with Jesus Christ and His presence in your marriage, family and home life!

Every marriage and every family is a true gift from God! Each one is special in its own unique way of loving and caring for one another. It's what we do with our gift that will make the difference in your life today! Cherish each other in your marriage.....Love each other as Christ also loved His Church! If you choose to love your spouse the same way Jesus loves him or her, your life will never be the same! You will experience true joy in marriage that will shower your family in God's precious love!

W e live in a time of great marital discord and family disintegration. The divorce rate today is quite alarming and ironically, even though the society appear to now have better quality if life compared with many centuries ago, yet this has not help matters. The problems in the family in our present generation are not economic but ethical and spiritual. The present century in our world today is the century of unbelief and apostasy, the century in which secular humanism replaced Christianity as the predominant world-view. It is the children of those who rejected biblical Christianity in the 1930s and 40s who cast off all restraint. Thus, since the 1960s some part of the world experienced the youth rebellion, the so-called generation gap, the drug culture and the sexual revolution. Young people rejected Christianity and rejected God's ordained lawful means of preserving the family. The sexual revolution, with its premarital sex, pornography, adultery, homosexuality and easy, no-fault divorce has left in its wake broken families, untold heartaches, suicide, poverty and abortion.

Unfortunately, the world has also devised various responses and means of solving these problems and almost in all cases without the basic Christian tenets and biblical concept. The Christian church existed for 1800 years without psychology and psychiatry. Christians must realise that psychologists and psychiatrists are a type of secular priesthood. When Christianity was cast off, psychologists and psychiatrists rushed in to fill the role once held by Bible-believing pastors, priests and people.

To solve the sin problems that occur in the family we must avoid romancing with pagan theories and depend solely upon God's Word. God will not patch his grace onto some humanistic psychological nonsense even if that nonsense is couched and buried in Christian terminology. There is no neutrality. The problems of the family are ethical and spiritual; therefore, we must focus our attention on the Bible and pray for wisdom and the enabling power of the Holy Spirit to sanctify our families before God.

Difference between the man and the woman

The Lord fashion the man differently from the woman. He made the woman the weaker vessel. And that is it: every woman, no matter her intelligence, her education or social statues or how highly placed she is, she is the weaker vessel. It is important therefore that adequate care is taken of them, this is one area of life which only the marriage instituted by God can take care of.

“Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as hairs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers’’. (1 Peter 3:7).

The qualities

Both should be trustworthy
Both should seek the interest of each other, that is not been selfish
Both should be diligent that is industrious, and eats not the food of idleness.
Should be economical: - She should not push the husband into acquiring ill-gotten wealth by demanding for clothing and things beyond the family income. She should satisfied with what the husband can afford and the husband too should be a good management of finance.
She should be able to rise up early and care for her household, she should not live all the house work to the maids, and she should not lie in bed while the maid makes the breakfast. And the husband should be supportive too; he should not leave all the work to the wife.
Both should be contributors.
Should be charitable: she should stretch out her hand to the poor, she should reach out to the needy. Visitors should feel welcomed as she greets them with smiles. She should make her home a dwelling place not just a mere house. And the husband should encourage the spirit of generosity.
She should look well to the ways of the household - providing good food and clothing.
She should be modestly and beautifully dressed. He should be modest and hygienic.
Bring respect to each other: she should be full of love and respect for her husband. She should respect her husband as she would to her father, love as a brother and take care of him as a loved child. The husband should take the wife as both his mother and daughter.
He should be tender: deal with her carefully, avoid hurting her, look after her, and admire her. The wife should not be a nagging wife.
Both should be courteous and should not hesitate to apologise when there is hurtful feeling. Should not talk to each other harshly in the public and even in private.
Both should have self control: “The end of all things is near. Therefore be clear minded and self-controlled so that you can pray.”
(1 Peter 4:7).
Both should fear and reverence God.
Both should be prayerful: “Be joyful always.” (1 Thessalonians 5:16).

Conclusion

Marriage is for men not boys and it is for women not for girls.

God bless you

Evang. JohnB. Oseh