Dangers of the sin of Fornication and Adultery
Satan shame unto you, all power belong to Jesus (2x)
Since this is a sin, it must be called that. The 21 st century is noted for its euphemisms, its refusal to call something by its real name. We've all heard this. That's why we hear very little about fornication or adultery, our society preferring rather to speak of being "sexually active" or "having affairs." We ought to call this sin what it is: Fornicating.
Apart from the sin, there still are reasons to avoid fornication/adultery. Avoid HIV/AIDS and other dreaded diseases.
1. You run a high risk of getting one of the many sexually transmitted diseases that are out there (including AIDS). Thus engaging in them puts your health at risk. And health is important. Very important. Bad health is like a pebble in your shoe as you walk through life, something you have to live with. A wise man is concerned about preserving his health.
2. If you are married you risk destroying your marriage and causing great emotional upheaval in both your life and your spouses' life. If you have children your actions threaten great upheaval in their world and deep emotional problems for them, deeply wronging them. Your actions threaten your entire family.
3. If a child results from your actions it will be illegitimate. By producing an illegitimate child you have wronged that child. For example many cases of broken homes, marital discord, spouse abuse, child abuse, and juvenile delinquency have their root in sexual sin. Sexual sin produces large numbers of divorces and remarriages, thereby producing children being raised by stepparents, children who often end up angry (stepparents often do not have the patience and love of the true parent).
4. If, as many people do, you produce a child you are not able to support, you have wronged society --- for society must then support the child.
5. Adultery is cheating. You can't be an adulterer and be an honest person. If you are an adulterer you are also a liar and a cheat.
6. Hurt and guilt: in the form of personal anguish, suffering, anger and hatred; hurt in the form of messed up lives; hurt in the form of financial distress. Furthermore, no other sin does so much damage to a society as a whole. The costs of the sexual sins are very great to a society. Many of the problems of our society have at least part of their root in sexual sin.
Covenant (lost of virginity – blood spill out). Youths should exercise caution during courtship. The Bible is not silent on the subject of premarital relations. Sexual intercourse is to be confined to marriage.Genesis 34:1-7, 31. Marriage is God's provision for the release of sexual desire.
“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” (Hebrews 13:4)
“Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:2).
Having said these things now, it is important to be honest and recognise that fornication and adultery are indeed the Achilles' heel of mankind. Those forces can pull us all if we are careless. For all of us there is this conflict between flesh and spirit, between desire and conscience.
16This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
17For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.
18But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.
"For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God ... For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness." (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, 7)
1. Christians are commanded to "flee," "avoid," and "abstain from fornication."
“And she caught him by his garment, saying, Lie with me: and he left his garment in her hand, and fled, and got him out.” (Genesis 39:12).
“Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” (2 Timothy 2:22)
2. Avoid any occasion or environment that can lead you into sin. This demands mortification and self-control. Remember that King David was supposed to be at the war front but he chose to be at home idling away and thereby committed evil with Bathsheba Uriah’s wife. Avoid unnecessary visits and pornographic magazines and films.
“Mortify (put to death) therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry” (Colossians 3:5).
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” (Galatians 5:22-23).
“Can a man walk on hotcoals without his feet being scorched? “
(Proverbs 6:28). Avoid the first approach to danger. But some are still tempting the devil to tempt them.
3. Parental examples: Especially, parents teach their children about this sin by giving them the positive example of their own behaviour in marriage: they remain married to the wife of their youth; they don't flirt with other's spouses; they show affection toward their spouse in the home; and are chaste in all their behaviour before the children.
4. Possession of pure heart: If the sisters were elevated and possessed purity of heart, any corrupt advances, even from their minister, would be repulsed with such seriousness as would never need a repetition. Minds must be terribly befogged (confused) by Satan when they can listen to the voice of the seducer because he is a minister, and therefore break God's plain and positive commands and flatter themselves that they commit no sin.
D. Consider the following accounts of fornication in Scripture.
1. Schechem and Dinah
Genesis chapter 34
2. Tamar and Amnon
2 Samuel chapter 13
Whoever commits fornication without repenting "destroys his own soul" (Proverbs 6:23).
This must be taught our to children, and taught from their youngest days: sex is for marriage; sex is ruinous outside of marriage; fornication destroys the existing marriage; fornication dishonours God.
I've Fallen, But I CAN Get Up
“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. “ (Hebrews 12:1).
Think about the times that we have done or said something outside of God’s will but quickly repented once the conviction of the Holy Spirit set in. Those instances are equated to small stumbles, much like physical stumbling which simply require a few quick steps to balance ourselves and prevent a full-fledged fall. Once we have made the recovery and are back in God’s will we can look back and chuckle about our foolishness.
You see, falling down is not the worst thing that could happen.
“For a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again, but the wicked shall fall into mischief.” (Proverbs 24:16)
We all fall; even those who consider themselves to be spiritually stable. The tragedy arises when we make the choice to remain in our sin rather than lift ourselves out of it. God considers us just, not when we have fallen, but when we have enough Christ within us to cause us to get back up again.
The enemy and his cohorts love nothing more than to see believers stumble and fall, but we can rejoice in knowing that we may be down but we are not out.
“Rejoice not against me, O mine enemy: when I fall, I shall arise; when I sit in darkness, the Lord shall be a light unto me.” (Micah 7:8)
You may have fallen, but today I challenge you not to stay there. I challenge you to speak to the enemy with boldness. Say to that devil, “Yes, I have fallen, but I WILL get up!”
Evang.John Bamidele Oseh