Dangers of Forbidden Fruit

Song:

 Holy Spirit be my comforter

Holy Spirit lead me through

As I’m walking along the way

The road is rough and narrow

Holy Spirit lead me through

The current consensus is, that many people feel that prior to marriage they should experience living with each of their intended mate. They claim this will allow them to experience the reality of marriage, without the commitment, without the fear of making a mistake. Unfortunately, it falls short of the intended goal. "Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge." (Hebrews 13:4)

I consider pre-marital sex (sex before marriage) as a 'forbidden fruit' and the consequence is grievous.

Women, who are living with their fiancé, are significantly more likely to be in the state of depression than those who marry before they live together. Why is this you may ask? Take a moment to consider the possibilities.

In an attempt to verify their feelings for each other, and their ability to commit to each other, they are undermining the concept of marriage. Because there's no responsibility, no requirement to stay together, the fear that the relationship will fall is common. The woman's fear of rejection is amplified for the simple fact that she knows that this man is not committed to her completely, and can simply walk away anytime he chooses. This puts an unfair burden on the woman because she is attempting to please the man, not out of love, but out of fear of rejection. This may seem like an added challenge that will help to strengthen the bond, but fear is never a good motivator when it comes to relationships.

Some may say that it is nothing more than a consensual (mutual consent) union between two adults. But this couldn't be further from the truth.

Sexual contact, and ultimately sexual intercourse is the last boundary in the human's physical realm. This last frontier on which humans can give of him or herself. Once virginity is lost, it can never be regained.

When sexual intimacy occurs before marriage, each individual is displaying that they have little respect for themselves. Since they are giving into their desires, they are showing that their last and most precious gift is nothing more than a physical urge.

By preserving this last frontier of human emotion, they're displaying respect for themselves, respect for the other individual, and ultimately, the respect for commitment that may be achieved.

Additional studies show that premarital sex results in a significantly higher divorce rate. This all goes back to the respect issue. If each individual does not respect him or herself, or their mates, they are demonstrating their lack of respect for their commitment to each other, and thus the wedding vows.

Many godless and worldly people attempt to portray those individuals who would wait for marriage, or a "white wedding", to be silly, narrow minded, and uninformed. In fact they are the ones who are struggling with the issue of the sexual revolution. They may not know it at a conscious level, but they are depriving themselves of the same respect, and self-worth that is associated with waiting for marriage to the right person.

God intended man and woman to be together, but not to be sexually engaged until after marriage. The Bible is adamant about this issue. Fornication and adultery are not acceptable in the eyes of God, and regardless of the portrayals we witness in the media, movies, books, television shows, etc. we as intelligent and responsible people should understand the reasons why these rules have been laid.

Sexual promiscuity is regarded as a right, a human right that each individual should have, and each individual should experience. But, common-sense, the Bible, and God say that sex outside of marriage is not only sinful but a bad idea.

God Bless You

Evang. John B. Oseh